10 Ways being a Stay at Home Mom Made me a Better Employee

I spent the better part of 2016 as a Stay at Home Mom after having my daughter in January. At the end of the year, we decided it was time for me to return to work and I was amazed at how difficult it was to get back into the workforce after taking a year off.

As if starting a career in a new industry wasn’t hard enough (opportunities in my previous industry are quickly dwindling in the area), having a nearly one year gap of employment makes getting your resume seen seem nearly impossible. Sure, I can write a cover letter and explain that I was a stay at home mom, but does that make me less attractive as an employee? I’ve never been in the recruiting world so I can’t say for sure, but based on the lack of response I received from many jobs I was qualified for, I think it’s safe to say it does.

However, I think women wanting to get back into the work force are likely better employees than they were prior to having kids. Here’s why:

  1. More Authoritative: Let’s be honest; being authoritative in the workplace can be hard for a woman. Put your foot down and you’re a b****, let things slide and you’re an airhead. I struggled with this many times in my previous career. As a mom, I’ve mastered the art of learning to fight my battles, how to be stern without being mean, and how to regain morale after having to put my foot down.
  2. Better Trainers and Coaches: There seems to be a huge culture and communication gap in the workforce between millennials and the generations before us. I get it, we seem whiny, needy, and incapable of handling responsibility and stress. I truly believe that the root of this problem is a lack of training and coaching. I’ve seen time and time again, employees  stop thriving after leaders continually tell them “no.” No, they didn’t put this report together right, no, they didn’t get this promotion, no, their plan was “wrong.” With my daughter, I’ve quickly learned that I can’t teach her about the world by telling her “no” every time does something I don’t want her to do. Sure, knowing what “no” means is necessary (and don’t get me wrong, she hears it several times a day) but it doesn’t actually teach anything. As moms, we learn that instead of just saying no, we need to teach them why they shouldn’t do that and what they should do instead. Learning this step in coaching, and quite frankly, being in a continual state of coaching makes moms great candidates for leadership positions.
  3. Decisiveness: As a Stay at Home Mom, you are the boss and those little ones aren’t going to wait around for Mom to hum and haw over what they are going to do today, or if they should get into the cleaning supplies. Instead, we learn to act on our feet; we evaluate circumstances quickly, always keeping in mind priorities and make decisions fast.
  4. Self Motivated: Another big complaint against millennials is that they are difficult to motivate. I always thought I was self motivated, until I became a stay at home mom, and then I realized I had just skimmed the surface. As a stay at home mom, there’s no one watching you all day to make sure you get dressed, clean the house, cook the food, play with the kids. The demand for you to do these things all has to come from a desire inside yourself to do these things.
  5. Mastering the Art of Engagement and Multitasking: A few years ago, being able to classify yourself as a continual multitasker was a great advantage. Lately, science is telling us that the human brain is only really capable of focusing on one thing at a time. I think the truth is that great employees lie somewhere in the middle and what sets them apart is the ability to prioritize when to multitask and when to be engaged in one activity. As a Stay at Home Mom, your to-do list is long; cooking, cleaning, playing with your babies, etc. What I’ve learned is that little ones know when mom isn’t fully engaged and in some instances it can be harmful when we choose to multitask when we need to be engaged.
  6. Appreciate a Social Environment: One of the hardest things about becoming a Stay at Home Mom, was losing the social environment of my job. I didn’t realize how important the daily conversations about how our weekend or evenings were to my overall satisfaction. Being a Stay at Home Mom can be isolating; hire her if you’re having a strong team-like setting is important to you.
  7. Technologically Advanced/ Social Media Experts: As I mentioned in #6, finding fulfillment socially can be challenging as a Stay At Home Mom, so many women turn to social media and technology to find fulfillment and support. Without any formal training, we have a good idea of which platforms are best for what content, how to visually streamline your Instagram, optimal post frequency, etc. We probably are also very familiar with some great influencers that might be useful to your business.
  8. More Organized: Staying at home all day with a baby or toddler in a home that has no organization whatsoever is miserable. If you’re looking for a woman who’s mastered the art of decluttering and organizing, look no further than a former Stay at Home Mom.
  9. Financially Cautious: One of the scariest things as a family about having one parent stay at home, is having all of your financial “eggs” in one basket. What if the economy crashes? What if my husband doesn’t meet his sales quota? What if we get sick? Stay at Home Moms know how to prioritize financial needs like a boss and are experts at making the most of a budget.
  10. Entrepreneurial: Saved the best for last! As I mentioned in #9, managing a family’s finances on one income is hard, no matter how much the breadwinner makes. In my year as a Stay at Home Mom, I’ve never met so many entrepreneurs. These women are incredibly smart, hard working, innovative and creative people. If those traits don’t suit your search, I don’t know what will!

My question is this: how do we change the paradigm in our society that being a stay at home mom is easy? How do we communicate to corporations and recruiters that taking a year to focus on being a mom doesn’t mean that I took a year off from my growth and development? If anyone has been in these shoes and found a way to communicate this in their search, I’d love to hear it! let’s help each other out!

If you’re curious how my story ends: I chose to become a REALTOR and couldn’t be any happier. I’ve found that I like the independence of being a Stay at Home Mom and being a REALTOR allows me to have the best of both worlds!

This House

This house was my mom’s dream house. After years of checking out model homes and open houses on the weekends and crunching the numbers, she found one that fit. It was 2006 when my parents put our old house up for sale, the real estate market was cooling off. Selling the old house was hard and took months but my parents persevered and finally found a way to sell our old house and buy this house.

This house turned out to be the perfect sanctuary for my mom. When she lost the job she’d had for over a decade, she spent a year in this house searching for a job every day. I’m sure it wasn’t easy but in the years after my parents bought this house, almost every house in our neighborhood was foreclosed on, but my parents held on tight to this house.

This house was where my mom fought the hardest battle of her life. When she was diagnosed, the doctors thought she might have a couple months but we celebrated her birthday twice in this house while she battled cancer. Our family grew closer together over that time and spent more moments together than we had in a years. After 17 long months of fighting, we mourned the loss of my mom in this house.

This house is where I lived my last year of high school and was my safety net during college. My little sister grew up in this house; she was eight when we moved here.  After my mom passed away, my dad found companionship and eventually love with a woman who lived two houses down from this house.

This house became my older sister’s house when she and her husband moved back from Ohio. They spent two years here, raising their beautiful daughters. We started a new generation of memories in this house and my sister made this house their home. All seasons of life must end in order for new ones to begin and today my sister moved out of this house.

This house will soon be someone else’s. They will celebrate hard work, accomplishments, birthdays and holidays. They will cry over hard days, wounds, and loss. This house will comfort them with the warmth and shelter and will be the solid foundation for their lives, just like it did for us. Life will go on, as it always does, in this house.